All children, whether or not they have ADHD, do best when their parents build on their strengths. By identifying and nurturing your own child’s special abilities and talents, you can encourage the self-esteem, confidence, and competence necessary for him to succeed in life despite the obstacles that stand in his way. These strengths might include being dedicated, fast on his feet, seeing things that others do not, creative thinking, and family oriented, as well as many other talents that will serve him well throughout childhood, adolescence, and his adult life.
One of the best ways to help your child focus on what he can do, rather than what he cannot, is to help him experience as many concrete successes as possible. The more he sees what he can accomplish in his world, the more optimistic and confident he is likely to feel. Instruction in any of your child’s evolving interests sports, art, computers, woodworking, music, martial arts, or any other area—can lay the groundwork for such achievement, especially when combined with your praise for his efforts as well as his successes. If your child’s interests are not clear, help him discover and define some by actively finding areas where he can succeed. Talking with your child and supporting what he most enjoys and is best at may help him start to think about who he is and what he can do instead of who or what he is not.