How do I get other people on board with my parenting goals?
Many parents rely on other people to help take care of their kids. Having help can be a big relief, but it can also be stressful when other adults do things differently than we’d like.
Clear communication, patience, and consistency can help you get everyone on the same team.
Be clear with caregivers.
"I worry about what my child is eating when he’s at daycare."
If your toddler is in childcare, ask questions about what the teacher will provide at snack or mealtime. Talk to the teachers so they know what foods you want your child to eat.
Remember: You may need to have the conversation more than once. Don’t feel like you are being annoying or pushy — you are the parent!
Parent 2 Parent
"I’m kind but direct when I talk to my childcare provider about the snacks I prefer my daughter to eat. My experience is that they’re very open to talking with me about this and appreciate my honesty."
Get your family on your team.
"My family loves my baby and wouldn’t do anything to deliberately hurt her, but…"
If friends or family members are feeding your toddler unhealthy foods, speak up. You can say something like, “I'm trying to limit the amount of sugar and juice that Ana is having. Milk or water is best." If you are not sure what to say or how to say it, practice with your child’s pediatrician.
Parent 2 Parent
"My mother-in-law and I have very different ideas about raising kids. When I get frustrated, I try to remember that we both love Ella. That helps me take a deep breath and go over the rules nicely — again."
If it seems like your family just won’t listen, “blame” the pediatrician. For example, say that your child’s doctor insists that your toddler only drinks milk and water.
Remember: A child can’t have too much love, but a child can have too much food.