Divorce can be extremely painful and stressful for parents. How you adjust emotionally to divorce plays a role in how well your children will adjust.
Practice good self-care and model to your children how you cope with stress:
Communication between parents is key. If sitting down oneonone with your spouse seems too challenging, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends divorce mediation or counseling. Counselors can help spouses come to important joint decisions while minimizing conflict. They can also help children deal with their emotions and come to terms with the changes happening to their family.
Divorce mediation or divorce education classes might also help reduce stress and tensions related to the divorce proceedings and can help improve the coparenting relationship. They have been shown to improve satisfaction with the divorce proceedings, increase parents' understanding of children's needs, reduce coparenting conflict, strengthen parentchild relationships, and improve child and parent wellbeing.
Talking to Your Child's Pediatrician & Teachers
Communicating with your child's pediatrician or teachers about the divorce may also be important. You do not have to share overly personal details, but it can help your child's doctor or school provide appropriate care and referrals if they are kept in the loop about the general divorce proceedings. Pediatricians are a resource for helping parents understand when their child's reactions could be cause for concern and can support parents in finding ageappropriate ways to talk about the divorce.
Weathering the Storm
Divorce is a potential time of crisis for families, but parents can make a major difference in how children weather the storm. Children will do best if they maintain a positive relationship with both parents and are shielded from conflict and if their parents are committed to coparenting in a way that puts the children's needs first.
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