How do I get everyone on board with my parenting goals?
Many parents rely on other people to help take care of their kids. Having help can be a big relief, but it can also be stressful when other adults do things differently than we’d like.
Clear communication, patience, and consistency can help you get everyone on the same team.
Be clear with teachers.
If your child is in preschool or daycare, talk to the teachers so they know what foods you want your child to eat. You may need to have the conversation more than once. Don’t feel like you are being annoying or pushy — you are the parent!
Focus on communication:
- Find out what the teacher will offer at snack or mealtime. You may want to ask specifically about healthy snack options for classroom birthday and holiday parties.
- Ask the teacher if he can talk to the children about healthy foods. If your child is learning about healthy foods, she’ll be more likely to eat them.
- Talk with other parents about any concerns you have. If you are worried about something, chances are you are not the only one.
Parent 2 Parent
"My daughter came home from pre-school singing a song about yummy cookies. I was frustrated because we finally got her to stop asking for cookies at snack time. I didn’t want the teacher to think I was being annoying, but I brought it up anyway. The teacher was more than happy to teach a song about yummy fruit, too."
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Get your family on your team.
Grandparents, aunts, and uncles are most likely trusted and respected members of your family and an important part of your support system. It can be difficult at times when they don’t agree with your decisions as a parent or have different ideas about feeding, physical activity, or parenting. Be grateful but firm in these situations and remind your family members that you both love your child and want what’s best for her health. Feel free to “blame” your child’s doctor when explaining to family members why you prefer certain guidelines.
If a family member is doing you a favor by watching your child, you may feel uncomfortable telling him what to feed your child at meal and snack time. We understand this can be tough!
To make things easier on everyone:
- Try packing healthy meals and snacks for both your child and the family member. That way, you can be sure your child will eat foods you are comfortable with — and it helps your family member out, too.
- Keep plenty of healthy food choices in your home. If your child is used to eating healthy snacks, she’ll be more likely to make healthy choices when she’s in another adult’s home.
Parent 2 Parent
"I tell grandma and grandpa my kids want their love, time, and attention. That’s the sweetness that they need. They don’t need the candy or chocolates!"